Relationships


What To Think About Before Getting Into A Relationship?



A relationship is one of the most important aspects in an individual’s life as it affects the life of the person sometimes directly and indirectly at other times. Almost every individual has in mind how they would want their life partner to be and try and wait till that special person doesn’t come in their life. The present day scenario is such that people don’t stay single for a long time. A lot of blame for this can go to peers, colleagues and parents even. Indirect pressures from the people important in their lives result in making an individual rush into relationships, many a times with a person much different from what they had dreamt and longed for. These mistakes are the reason for the growing rate of split-ups among people in present times.

It is extremely essential for people to know their partners inside out before you can commit to them. People, no matter how good judges of character they may be, are often blinded by love in the initial phases. They think that when the initial dates go good, then the relationship would be ideal too and everything else would go on rather smoothly. However, it is rarely the case. People behave differently in different circumstances and the same person maybe different during a date and different while handling everyday challenges. Getting into a relationship is not like asking someone out for a cup of coffee where plans can be changed at any point of time. When a relationship for which you dedicate your time, effort and affection ends, it would not let you be without heartbreak. Hence to avoid such circumstances, much thought has to go in before getting into a relationship.

The most important part that has to be thought about before you get into a relationship is to understand the person you are planning to get involved with. Both the positive and the negative traits should be taken into consideration in an unbiased manner. Practicality is very important while judging a person. The reason behind this is that the infatuation lasts for an incredibly short period of time and ignoring the negative aspects initially might lead to frustrations in the later course of life.

A second aspect that should be considered is each other’s value system. This is an important aspect because a person’s value system defines a lot of his actions. Most decisions taken in a person’s life are influenced by his value system. If yours and your partners ground beliefs and values don’t match then there are possibilities of there being clashes in almost every phase of life. Constant difference of opinion perpetually harms a relationship no matter how hard you try to save it.

A relationship should never deteriorate you but on the contrary, it should add value to your life. Many a times ignoring this one factor leads to violent and abusive relationships. You should observe before getting into a relationship whether it is bringing in a positive impact or pulling you down in your life. You must remember at all times that a relationship is not about changing a person but instead it is about accepting someone the way he/she is. If a person is bringing in a whole lot of negativity in your life or is constantly trying to change you to better meet their needs, it is a bad sign and the best decision in such a circumstance would be to turn around and leave.

The last and the most important factor is trust. It is a fact that without trust, no relationship on this earth can last. Trust is the main essence of every relationship and is placed right after love. The person you choose should be someone you trust yourself with and feel safe in their presence. If a person does not trust you, it would mean constant doubting and over a period of time would be mentally harrowing for both the individuals. Clinging on to your partner in the name of possessive portrays a relationship as weak. It’s only when a person is left independent that the relationship truly blossoms and this can happen only once a basic level of trust is maintained in a relationship

Thus, thinking before truly committing to someone can do wonders for a relationship as both the individuals are mentally prepared with what challenges they might come across and overcome them together.